Loss And Grief: Coping With Life Changes While Remaining Positive

By Cheryl Proska
May 1st, 2017 For Members No Comments

In the classic children’s book, A Light In the Attic, author Shel Silverstein proclaimed:

“There are no happy endings.

Endings are the saddest part, so just give me a happy middle, and a very happy start.”

Silverstein was right. There’s often nothing happy about the end of anything, especially the passing of a spouse, parent or beloved pet. But ending and loss are moments every human will experience.

Of course, loss is not just death. Loss can include life changes that are positive ones such as a child moving away to college or out of the country for a new job, a career change or retirement.

If you’ve recently experienced a loss, you’re not alone. Consider how that loss can lead to positive transformation in your life.

Every experience, even the most heartbreaking, is a chance to grow as an individual. The loss of a loved one will make a person take stock of the relationships with the living. The loss of a pet may result in a person adopting another pet or dedicating time to help pets in need. A child moving out or moving across the country might inspire an individual to get closer to friends and family with whom they’ve lost touch. Without change and pain, there is no growth.


Know That Loss Can Make You Stronger or Remember There’s Always A Tomorrow

The loss of a loved one or a child moving away also reminds us just how much that person meant when they were around. It brings to mind all of the good times and those good times bring happy feelings.

Realizing that good can come out of bad situations is a powerful realization. These feelings can be our allies, reminding us how much we love others.

Pain, heartache, and loss will always be a part of life and is sometimes unavoidable. But if we can all realize the good that can still come out these times. It’s up to you to make the change and take the reigns to your feelings.

It’s important to remember that there’s no instant fix to feelings of loss and that there’s always a reason to move on. It’s vital to find reasons to push forward. Find new hobbies, start an exercise routine, meet friends for coffee or add anything to the calendar that gets you excited for the day.

Dealing with loss is a period of transition. But it is a period of transition to new and greater things.

Make sure you read the other posts in our series regarding Loss & Grief. One explores how loss can lead to life transformations more in-depth, and the other explores the positive side.

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